Can’t figure out your Enneagram type? Read this


If you’ve taken multiple Enneagram tests and gotten different results…
Or you’ve narrowed it down to a couple of types but can’t quite land on one…

You’re not alone!

As an Enneagram coach to over 75 teams across 6 different countries, this is the most common problem I see!

And it breaks my little Ennea-nerd heart because I know what’s on the other side of getting it right.

For me (Type 3 🙋🏻‍♀️), it changed everything:

  • I learned how to actually communicate with my Type 4 husband (and my Type 8 mom, Type 7 best friend, etc.)
  • I stopped tying my worth to my achievements… which, yes, I didn’t even realize I was doing until I discovered my type
  • And I finally had a clear growth plan instead of just a vague thought of: "I want to be a healthier version of me."

Most typing confusion comes down to this:

We’ve been conditioned to view our personalities through behavior.
Because the Enneagram isn’t about what you do, it’s about why you do it.

Your core fear.
Your core desire.
The patterns that show up when you’re stressed, scared, or defensive.

So if you’re stuck between types, or feel like nothing quite fits… there is a way to get clear.

Inside the Type Clarity Intensive, I teach a simple 4-step framework to help you finally say:

"YEP. That's me!"

Over 3 live sessions, you'll

  • Identify your actual type
  • Understand why typing has felt confusing up until now
  • Walk away with a simple, personalized growth roadmap

I’m opening up 12 spots for this round.

If you’ve been circling this for a while and want real clarity (plus live coaching with me), this is for you.

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Also, I pinky promise this won’t just be helpful… it’ll actually be fun. 😜

Happy discovering,
Abbey

Hi! I'm Abbey Howe, your Enneagram BFF!

A space for Enneagram nerds who want clarity, growth, and better relationships. Learn the psychology behind each type and how to apply it to your life so that it actually makes a difference. Created by author of "My Enneagram" (publishing March 2026) and creator of one of the largest Enneagram communities online, with 100k+ across platforms and 50M+ views on personality psychology content.

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