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Hi! I'm Abbey Howe, your Enneagram BFF!

A space for Enneagram nerds who want clarity, growth, and better relationships. Learn the psychology behind each type and how to apply it to your life so that it actually makes a difference. Created by author of "My Enneagram" (publishing March 2026) and creator of one of the largest Enneagram communities online, with 100k+ across platforms and 50M+ views on personality psychology content.

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Enneagram hot takes from Amy Poehler’s podcast

You guyssss. I'm back at it again with some more CELEBRITY ENNEAGRAM NEWS 🗞️ 🎉 Recently, Amy Poehler (can we just call her the Enneagram Queen now?) brought up the Enneagram with guest Kerry Washington on a recent episode of Good Hang. They landed on Kerry as a Type Three, Rashida Jones as a Type Seven (with a wing 6), and Reese Witherspoon as a hard-core Type Three. (This lines up with a story from Jim McPartlin’s The Enneagram at Work. When he was managing a hotel, Reese Witherspoon paused...

Your mom, your best friend, your partner, and the person writing this email (cough cough) all have a problem. We’re all emotionally unbalanced. Like it or not, your well-being (or lack of it) hinges on how out of whack your levels of anxiety, shame, or anger are. And if you’re wondering how all of us being emotionally unhinged has anything to do with the Enneagram, well… There’s this thing called triads. A triad is a grouping of three types that have core traits in common. So if you're torn...

It's the most important thing you can do for yourself... And it connects to something that changed millions of lives. When Muhammad Yunus was traveling through Bangladesh, he saw families trapped in poverty. Instead of just feeling sad about it, he got curious and asked: What is the root issue here? Because it's not that these people were lazy or not ambitious. They were actually some of the most creative and hard-working people he'd ever met! The problem was simply: access. They didn’t have...

If you’ve taken multiple Enneagram tests and gotten different results…Or you’ve narrowed it down to a couple of types but can’t quite land on one… You’re not alone! As an Enneagram coach to over 75 teams across 6 different countries, this is the most common problem I see! And it breaks my little Ennea-nerd heart because I know what’s on the other side of getting it right. For me (Type 3 🙋🏻♀️), it changed everything: I learned how to actually communicate with my Type 4 husband (and my Type 8...

I'm a hypocrite. Because I literally published an Enneagram book about preventing burnout... And while launching said book... I completely burned out 😅 Even Enneagram "experts desperately need to take their own advice sometimes. So here is my official plan to refill my Type 3 cup: Go on some dates with my husband (tonight's date: In-N-Out and watching Project Hail Mary) Start working out again (currently looks like lifting weights while my toddler plays in the front yard) ACTUALLY follow my...

Screaming, crying, kicking my feet! My Enneagram is out now! Ready to be placed right in your hands for a FUN journey of discovery and transformation. 🎉 My Enneagram is right for you if you... Are stuck between two types and just can't figure it out Love to journal and grow as a human being Feel like you need a little guidance finding your type Like to have fun while learning Here's where you can buy this approachable and playful guided journal: AmazonBarnes & NobleBookshop.orgBooks A...

Hey Reader, Quick reminder because tomorrow is launch day 🎉 My Enneagram officially comes out, which feels surreal to type right now, and I didn’t want you to miss it if you meant to grab a copy and life did its usual thing. If you’ve ever: felt confused by surface-level Enneagram content wanted something practical, not woo-woo or overly academic or just wished someone would explain this stuff like a normal human This book was written with you in mind. A playful guided journal to help you...

Hiiiiii Ennea-nerds! (Or maybe you’re just Ennea-curious and finally ready to find your type.) When I sat down to write this book, my goal was to create a practical–but FUN–guide to help you be your best self. I wrote it because when I first learned about the Enneagram, so many books either felt too dense or too boring to actually help me. As someone with kind of a squirrel 🐿️ brain, I felt like there was a real need for something in between. Accessible. Fun. Not too self-serious. But still...

One of my favorite parts of writing my debut Enneagram book wasn’t actually the writing. It was the conversations. From the beginning, I knew I didn’t want this book to be filtered only through my Type 3 brain. (you’re welcome lol) I wanted to go beyond theory and look at what it’s actually like to live inside these types!! Which is how I found myself on a Zoom call with a Type 5 named Charlotte, from New Zealand. I’d first met Charlotte during a virtual Enneagram workshop I taught for her...

My Enneagram: A Visual Guide to Find Your Personality Type, Stress Less, and Live Your Dreams Paperback – February 17, 2026

Someone pinch me. My Enneagram: A Visual Guide to Find Your Personality Type, Stress Less, and Live Your Dreams officially drops next Tuesday on Amazon, and anywhere else books are sold!! You can be one of the first to grab it if you preorder today. This guided journal has been in the works for over two years. I’ve interviewed countless Enneagram types, gathering stories and wisdom to fill these pages. I wrote double the amount that actually ended up being printed, trying to distill it all...